Mar 4, 2020
Don’t get old. Seriously.
On a Saturday about six months ago I did a normal weekend 20-mile run. That run had a lot of hills and I knew I would feel it later. Unfortunately, the “feeling” I got the next day didn’t leave. For the first time in my life I developed a soft tissue injury in my knee. A tendon or ligament had been aggravated and overused. I spent weeks setting up doctors appointments with various doctors and eventually ended up working with a physical therapist.
Each doctor and therapist would test both my strength and flexibility throughout different parts of my lower body to determine where the weakness originated. It is soooo helpful to have someone else help identify your weak points. This is why I love all the therapy - physical therapy, spiritual directors, psychologists, whatever.
The best part is that they don’t just point out your weakness, but they help you get stronger. I specifically need my knee to be resilient and hurry in the recovery process. Although I’m impatient, I have learned so much about resilience during this season.
I go to the gym, I do all the exercises the therapist assigned. As I got stronger, I was very aware that it wasn’t enough to focus on that single aspect.
2. I also have to develop flexibility
Now that I was getting stronger, I had to remember to stretch and maintain flexibility.
Resilience is having a balance of both strength and flexibility.
Resilience is revealed under pressure.
That means it takes a challenging event, a tough situation, or a rough season to expose how resilient you are and teach you where you need to strengthen and where you need to stretch.
You face these all the time. You have relationships in your life. You have jobs. You have your own fears and growth to deal with.
Have you ever had a thought when you’re in the middle of something tough that you can’t handle it, you want out, or why is this happening to you?
Those are the moments that resilience is being both revealed and developed.
The next time you find yourself feeling like you’re about to break, lean into it. I know that sounds crazy, but whatever “it” is will not break you. It will shape you and become a part of your story for better or worse, but you can handle it.
A few tried and true practices for developing resilience:
- Make sure you have someone to talk to. Get these things outside of you.
- Exercise. Get fresh air. Change your literal perspective.
- Make an effort to do something kind for someone. Best way to elevate your mood.
- Journal. Meditate. Find a practice that works for you.
- Muscles tear before they get stronger. Each day that you feel torn or broken down, remember that you are getting stronger.
Be a great rubber band.
Every time I share a solo episode, my hope is that these become more than just rambling, inarticulate words. My own struggles and the lessons I’ve learned can be tools for you to become who you are meant to be. It doesn’t mean you won’t have to walk through the similar seasons and experience growing pains, but you will know that you are not alone and be reminded that life is full of stretching and strengthening.
Be sure to visit the show notes and browse through resources I’ve shared there. Even though I would love to have a conversation with each of you, I feel like the resources I’m able to share are a close second. They are usually items I’ve incorporated into my own life that have helped me in my personal development. I share them because I believe you have the potential to be so much more and that knowledge will be power for you.
Get out there, own your resilience and amplify your life!